I talk to a lot of women who feel trapped in their relationships – waiting for a man to commit and not knowing if he ever will.
It’s a really uneasy and nerve-wracking place to be – because you don’t want to feel like you’re wasting your time with him, but you also feel uneasy… is he EVER going to commit to you?
That’s why I’ve come up with my top 4 signs that a guy isn’t going to commit. If a guy is giving you more than 2 or 3 of these signs – it probably means he’s not that serious about the relationship.
So without any further ado, here are the 4 signs he will never commit:
- He Doesn’t Make Any Time For You
When someone or something is important to a guy – he shows it. He won’t make it a secret.
And one of the biggest ways that a guy shows that someone or something is important to him is by making it a priority in his life – and spending his time accordingly.
Guys will always have some room in their schedule for the things that are important to them. Even if he’s super busy – if you’re a priority to him, he’s going to make time for you.
Now, that might not be a ton of time, or as much time as you’d like. But if he’s consistently not making time for you, then it’s a sign you’re not a priority to him – which is a huge sign that he’s not going to commit.
- He Only Calls You Late At Night
When a guy demonstrates that he’s only interested in one thing (like, for instance, if he only calls you late at night), it kind of tells you where he is in his feelings about you and your relationship.
When a guy commits himself to a relationship, he does it because he’s getting something from the relationship and from the woman that he couldn’t get from a random hookup.
That usually comes in the form of the “vibe” of the relationship – if it feels really good for him to be in the relationship, he’s going to want to have more of it.
However, for him to want to commit, he has to know that you’re just as single as he is – until he clearly, unambiguously locks you down into the relationship.
That means that if he’s “not ready” for a commitment – neither are you. And if he only calls you up late at night, it means that you’re exactly as committed to him as he is to you – and that you could be “busy” when he calls.
It’s only when the vibe of the relationship is really good and when he knows you’re just as committed (or just as single) as he is that excited, happy, enthusiastic commitment happens. (And remember – it’s not about trying to make him commit – it’s about him WANTING to commit to you.)
- He’s Not Over His Ex
This is a big one. When a woman hears this excuse about not being ready to commit – she often traps herself into waiting for him to “get over” his ex – and waiting for him to be ready.
Of course, this means that she gives up all control in the relationship – because he’s not “over” his ex until he wants to be – and he’s not ready to commit until he wants to be.
Also – remember what I said before – you’re only as committed to him as he is to you. If he’s not ready to commit because he’s not over his ex – you’re not committed to him – and you’re free to do whatever you want.
Plus, even if he does eventually get over his ex – one phone call or text from her might bring all sorts of feelings rushing back for him – and put your relationship in jeopardy. If he’s still that hung up on his ex, it’s time to cut your losses and find an unattached guy who will commit to you the way you want him to.
- He Says He Doesn’t Want A Relationship
This is a huge one, and it’s one I try to teach at every opportunity. If he says he doesn’t want a relationship – BELIEVE HIM. He might give you all sorts of excuses or reasons why, but at the end of the day, the only important words he said were, “I don’t want a relationship.”
There are a million ways for a guy to say he doesn’t want a relationship, and usually the nicer he tries to be the more confusing it’s going to sound to you.
That’s why when he gives you “reasons”, or “excuses”, or “explanations” about why he doesn’t want a relationship – it’s best to just tune them out and pay attention to the only important thing he told you, which is “I don’t want a relationship.”